Tis the season for divorce

[Dennis 2 Society]

wow............

I won't even try 2 offer up any advice bcuz @ this stage in the game,you probably don't want or need it.

The financial stuff is one matter, but I can tell ya that time does heal a broken heart.

Every day gets easier.
Now,I'm a bartender and a musician,and I can say that I'm currently really enjoying my single status. 3 months ago I was a useless ball of emotions.

Now I just try 2 make myself happy.

That's the only words of wisdom that I do have, Do what makes Greg happy. when you're ready,go out there and see the world with new eyes,without the veil of marriage or a relationship.

enjoy the time you have 2 turn your boys into men.

one door closes.

another door opens.

[rob]

You're not alone, man. EVERYONE I KNOW is getting divorced. T.S. is right though, keep your chin up.

[trapper]

Yep. There's not much I can do right now. I'm just along for the ride. It can get pretty bumpy, especially with three kids involved. Both of us want them. Since I'm the dad, I'm screwed. Only time will tell...

[dickdean]

Im going thru the same shit right now , and it has been one hell of an emotional roller coaster , but i think we will both be better off

[trapper]

So yesterday, I was finally "served" my papers. My lawyer took care of it for me. I had to go in today to sign a counter petition. My wife's lawyer is looking to rake us over the coals and make a fortune from her. The first document was complete bullshit. It was nothing that either one of us agreed on. Her lawyer said that it was just to get "the ball rolling". So now I have to make a counter petition to contest over half of the statements. Renee even said that they were bullshit. She also said that she didn't read it before she signed it. So I can see that it's just as much her fault as her lawyer's fault.
I had to submit a two page agreement of stuff that we have agreed on. If it all goes into the counter petition correctly, things will be good. But I was told that her lawyer is good at rewording stuff, and changing things to his likings.
We have agreed on custody, marital debt, dividing our stuff, and pretty much everything else. I didn't read any of it from the initial document today.
So now I have to sit back and wait to see if my lawyer is legitimate. She said that she would do whatever I asked. I asked her to make it as simple as possible since Renee and I have agreed on most things.
I'm ready to move back home. But living under the same roof isn't bad all of the time. At least I have the kids around to keep me busy. Plus, I have most of my packing done. So I'm ready to split when we sell this house. Hopefully, we can sell it within a couple of months. With Scott AFB right down the road, houses sell pretty quickly around here. Otherwise, I would be screwed.

[Dennis 2 Society]

Trapper,Ricky,Rob

there is only one adult way to handle these trying times.




get really drunk.

who's with me.

[trapper]

I've been doing that quite frequently.
I have the kids tonight, so my drinking will start after the kids go to sleep. The wife will come home later. Hopefully, I can be numb by the time she gets here so when she starts complaining about random shit, I can just sit back and ignore her.

[kimberlily]

This is why I might never get married. Now I'm scared, thanks guys! Adrein's going to want a daddy, but all the guys on the market seem to be flakey, or insecure, or outa my league.

How hard is it to find a guy that fixes shit, changes the oil, takes out the trash, and puts out? I think I need a guy nanny...

Who's going to YMSB next weekend?

[trapper]

This message board is cursed. Cursed, I say! Tim, stop reading and run away!

I never knew it was possible to have a wife that was unhappy with her husband because he dedicated too much time to his children and not enough time to the wife.

Another complaint is that she's tired of getting it her way all of the time. She wants confrontation. I let her do/buy anything because I thought it made her happy. Boy, I was wrong. And she has no problem buying things. She just bought a pair of size 4 pants. She's lost over 50 pounds since November, but she is still having problems because she still thinks she's fat. She weighs less now than when we got married 10 years ago. She's starting to look sick. She went from a DD to a B. And she lost her butt. What a shame. Plus, she lost her personality. According to her, that's all my fault.

Time to get another beer.

[rob]

You're not screwed for being the dad. Best Lawyer always wins.

[dickdean]

Im with ya Dennis thats a good way to forget about all this stupid shit , its better to just get so drunk you just pass out , instead of being sober trying to go to sleep when your mind is racing . my divorce is final as of last wedenesday .we were in agreements, and did it with no lawyers Im just sitting back watching every thing disappear now . but atleast i got to keep my house .

[Warreng]

Im scared.

Its gonna happen sooner or later, ill give it a year and a half.

[trapper]

Well, I lucked out. We put our house on the market two weeks ago. It's already sold. The closing date is May 29th. I will be a Mt. Olive resident by June. Renee still doesn't know where she's going to live. And she hasn't even started boxing stuff up. I think I have one more trailer full of stuff that's going to Dad's house. After that, I'm done until the closing date.

I'm getting the three kids for June and July. Renee gets to see them every other weekend. But, like a dumbass, she already planned several "vacations" during her visitation weekends. I told her that she will have to give up those weeks because I'm not giving up my weekends with the kids to accomodate her. Now she's pissed at me. It's not my fault. She hasn't used her brain much lately.

I would love to stick around to see how she's going to fit all of her stuff in a 16 foot POD. We have a 3,000 square feet house. Most of the shit is hers. She has no clue. I'm waiting for the whining to start soon. The POD will be arriving later next week, around the 14th. And she's planning on partying that Saturday night and having friends fill the POD for her on Sunday.
She told me that she's going on vacation for a week in early June since she doesn't have to pay the mortgage. I wonder if she thinks that her rental will be free? She's talking about driving down to Florida or up to Massachusetts for a week with the kids. But she has to make it home by the 12th or 13th to do a run in St. Louis that weekend. Then, she's going to South Carolina in July, and Chicago in August. She keeps proving to me that she's dumber than I thought. With the mess we are in, why would she make all of these plans when we are working on custody of the kids? I want to tell her, "Wake the fuck up!", but I know that won't help a bit.

Hopefully the fish are biting this summer. The kids love fishing. And they're going to have a lot of time with me for the first couple of months of my "single life".

So, in June, my transition to a single dad will start.

[Warreng]

Fishing is good.

Jesus women are retarded.

[dickdean]

Hey there trapper if you go to illinois department of corrections , IDOC.com theres a regestered sex offender search on there . You can type the guys name , and city , or county . If so his picture will pop up . All We can do about the whole thing is try to keep a positive attitude . seems like your doing a pretty good job , and staying focused . its alot to swallow .My situation was not as bad . I dont think she ever cheated on me , but it just feels like a low blow sometimes i just feel like im at the end of my rope , and wonder what the hell it is that i did to deserve this. I guess its just meant to happen this way , i just hope , and pray for better things to come . seems like the only place to go from here is up . keep on keepin on

[rob]

Hey Trapper, glad to see things are lookin up for you. Going out with a "bang" is the best way to go out. Good luck on your date.

My life has been a roller coaster in 09 but I'm relatively happy with the way things are lookin for me too. I'm in nursing school and doing well, I am patchin things up with the baby momma, and I will be spending most of my time downtown in the loft we just rented on Washington. Whenever in the STL, feel free to give me a ring and we'll go out for a beer. That goes for anyone.

L I V I N

[trapper]

Although life can be shittty, sometimes you get a clean pinch.

That's my motto for the day. I just made that up. That's deep, brother. Think about it...

Anyway, I have my first date. She has one day to back out. I hope she doesn't this time. I bought tickets for the Blues game. I know how to turn them on. It's my comfort zone. I'll teach her offsides and icing. The excitement will never end.

She might not consider it a date since we work together, but dinner downtown (St. Louis, not Mt. Olive!) and a hockey game is a date in my book.

Maybe y'all will see us on TV. She'll be the pretty red head near the faceoff circle on the opposite side of the benches where the Blues shoot twice. The Blues are playing the Flames.

Wish me luck. I hope I don't shit my pants.

[Warreng]

[trapper]

Good times last Thursday. She didn't back out. I was happy for that.

I wasn't as nervous as I normally am, in girly situations. Or in most situations. I'm getting better. I think I'll go for a walk. Python reference. Anyway...

Here's my long winded, embellished story of the night:

We left from work. I drove. Parked downtown near the Arch/Metro stop. Went to Morgan Street Brewery for a beverage while we waited until 5pm for the Old Spaghetti Factory to open. I ate all of my food. I hadn't eaten in two days. I was hungry. She was proud of me. I normally don't eat all of my food. We each had a glass of wine, and proceeded to the game. I gave her a gift for going with me. I purchased a pint of Canadian Mist, her favorite. She later told me how thoughful and funny that was. I had 6th row seats in the corner. Pretty good seats. I prefer sitting high up so I can see all 4 corners of the ice. Since it was her first game, I wanted to treat her with "high quality" seats to most people.

We got there early enough to watch the pregame skate. I took my camera, of course. After people watching for a while, we decided to watch the pre-skate. She was impressed with the seat location. We settled in. I decided to go to the glass for some pictures of the Flames. I had never seen the Flames before. I told her to come with me to the glass. She did. I asked her if she would like a puck. In all of the games I have attended, I have never come even close to getting a puck, foul ball, whatever. So we made it down to row 2 to cut across to the blue line where the guys usually stretch. As we were shuffling across the row, a puck landed next to me. I picked it up and tried to hand it to her. (I wanted to keep it!) She told me that I should give it to the little boy in the front row. I did. I gave away my first real souviner ever, from a sporting event. Well, not really. I have some autographs and stuff from other games, especially from the St. Louis all star game back when you kids were really little and skinny.

So we moved up to the blue line. We were standing on the steps in the front row. One of the Flames guys was screwing around with a puck, doing some crazy shit with it. I told her that I could do that. I can. I'm that good. I digress. So I lightly knocked on the glass to get his attention. He turned to us, I pointed to my lovely date. He turned his back to us and flipped a puck behind his back, right over the glass, right into her left hand. Impulsively, I gave her a big hug. Two pucks in one night. Never in a million years.

Once the game started, she asked real questions, like she actually wanted to know how the game was played. I explained offsides and icing. Once you know those two stops, you know hockey. She studied how line changes worked. I was definitely impressed.

The Blues lost, but I don't think I did. But like the Blues, I didn't put the puck in the net. Didn't even try. We had a good enough time.

On Friday, she carried her puck around work, showing it off to everyone. She told me that nobody asked her who she went with because everyone already knew. I told one person at work. She told one person. Rumors start fast in the workplace.

So we are planning another "date". She has never been to a professional football game. I told her to keep next Sunday open and we would go to the Rams/Cardinals game. She's in. I told her that if she ends up with a football, we would go to the casino because of her luck. She told me that she would do that, and that we would be high rollers all night long.

Field side seats are expensive! Is it worth it? I'll keep my answer to myself. Warren has a picture of her. He might be able to provide a worthwhile opinion. For 13 years, I was with the same mentally challenged person. I am now spending time with a girl who is mentally challenging. She's witty, and left handed. Yes, that makes a difference. At least to me. Her wiring is similar to mine. She uses scissors with her right hand. Me, too! Holy crap, we have so much in common. She has 3 kids. Me, too! Holy crap, Brady Bunch!

If any of you morons would post on this bored, I wouldn't have to write such long posts. I do have a few more complaints that I've been thinking about posting. Typing on this board is nice. Not many people read it. And for the most part, nobody knows me.

OK, time to look for some football tickets.

Warren, don't post her picture. If she finds out that I'm bragging about her, I'll be "pulling my goalie" for quite some time.

[trapper]

So I have football tickets for the Rams/Cardinals game this weekend. Everybody watch the game. It starts at 3pm. I ended up scoring first row tix in the end zone, Section 152, row C. Now I'm just praying that they are legitimate tickets. They're ebay tickets--real tickets. But that doesn't matter these days with the e-ticket deals that most teams have. A person can cancel the original ticket and send an e-ticket to someone for a small fee. There will be no way of knowing until we get there on Sunday.

Before the game, we are going to Schlafly. They have froglegs on the menu. I never had to pay for froglegs before. That seems stupid.

I need some help with picking out a little gift for her. Any recommendations? Last time, I had a pint of Canadian Mist, because that's what she likes. Plus we saw a hockey game--Canadian sport, Canadian whiskey. It all fit well. This time, I have a bottle of wine for her--my favorite bottle--Banfi 2005 Chianti Classico Riserva. I was going to get her something a little more personal, something that would last a little longer than a bottle of wine. But it's probably best to keep things short term for now. Maybe something from Bath and Bodyworks. Ladies? Any help? Fellas? Your answer is probably "wrap up your schlong". There, I wrote it for you.

I have a few days to come up with something with a little more style, more "trapper". I don't know...